Dear Eugenia Answers

SUNDAY, APRIL 14, 2019

DEAR EUGENIA by Eugenia Last

DEAR EUGENIA: I met a man during December 2018 who started to show interest in me more and more until it grew into a very intense and strong physical and spiritual connection. His birthday is May 22, 1964, and mine is June 18, 1974, 9:41 p.m.

He is married and made it clear he only wanted to have a fling with me. However, I feel he wants more, and I think there must be problems with his wife. I can sense they haven’t been intimately involved for a long time.

I can tell he is hiding his domestic problems. His wife is an Aries, and they have been married for five years.

I sense we have a karmic relationship from a past life. I feel so close to him, as if we have been dearest lovers or best friends. We can easily talk about anything, and sometimes he finishes my sentences.

I know he is attached, but I can’t seem to help myself. I need to know if he will change his mind and decide to leave his wife for me. What’s best for him — his Aries wife or me?

I appreciate your advice. — Confused Gemini

DEAR CONFUSED GEMINI: This is not your match made in heaven. In other words, the astrological comparison isn’t that great. If there is karma involved, it probably isn’t a lesson you want to draw out.

Without his wife’s birth data and his time of birth, I cannot tell you if she is better for him or if you are. What I can say is that he falls in an area of your chart that deals with friendship and socializing, not commitment.

The best thing you can do is to exit this relationship and look elsewhere. Sorrow prevails in your comparison in an area that deals with home and family. Eventually, should you continue to embark on this relationship, it will lead to animosity, anger and disappointment.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I am an Aries born March 23, 1952, at 1:34 a.m., and I’ve been looking for love and have been alone for a long time. Can you tell me if the coming year or beyond will include any romance and love?

Recently, since the beginning of 2019, I have had some sudden health issues but hope to have them under control soon. I am a creative type, love my work, and am comfortable in other areas of my life. I am a bit shy and not that good about getting out to meet people as much as I should be.

I am missing the love of a good man for what is left of this beautiful journey. Please let me know if love is in the stars. — Aries

DEAR ARIES: You will be heading into a higher romantic cycle beginning this fall. However, it will require some effort on your part. Your chart indicates you should be starting the process of finding a special fella now through various courses of action.

In your particular case, social media for seniors can work, along with signing up for interest courses, pleasure and interest travel geared toward meeting other singles and through colleagues and friends who may know someone who is single and looking for love.

One of the reasons you are feeling the pinch to find love, especially the past 18 months is due to transiting Saturn moving through an area of your chart that puts priority on relationships. However, unless you take action, it’s not likely to happen.

The other place you may find that special someone is revisiting your past. Attend reunions and reconnect with people you always found interesting but the timing was wrong.

There is no reason you cannot find love if you give it that old college try.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I am currently homeless and trying to find a place to live. I have been in a domestic relationship as well as trying to get a promotional grade so I can be promoted.

I would like to have a closer relationship with God and have more faith in him. I am trying to become a better person. I feel responsible for my partner, due to an eviction that took place. I was the only one working. I never asked him for anything but still feel guilty.

I was born Dec. 19, 1970. Any thoughts are welcome. — Sagittarius

DEAR SAGITTARIUS: I don’t often choose an email that doesn’t give me sufficient birth data. Without your time of birth, it’s very difficult to offer accurate information. However, in your case I felt that you are faced with a situation that is not uncommon right now, so I’m hoping my words will not only help you but others in a similar predicament.

Often when one of my readers can relate to a problem someone has submitted, it isn’t necessarily because they were born around the same time or happen to be the same sign but because they are experiencing similar transits passing through their natal chart.

First, dump the guilt. You have been experiencing a very depressing period the past two years that has affected your status, your position and your state of mind. At the same time, if you can put the negativity aside, it can also bring you the strength and courage to excel.

Let go of the past, and focus on the moment. Greater stability is within reach if you reach out to community, to church groups and centers for those who need help as well as to family and friends. A little help and belief in yourself will get back on track.

You have a decent chart, but you tend to be your own worst enemy when choosing partners. Walk away from any relationship that isn’t offering you equality, support and at least as much as you are willing to give in return.

This is a year of progress if you are productive and willing to ask for the help you need to get back on your feet.

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