Readers’ Email

Apr 30, 2017

WEEK OF APRIL 30, 2017

DEAR EUGENIA 

DEAR EUGENIA: I was born March 23, 1944, and I have been going through a lot of changes in life in recent years and again this year. I am moving in with an old lover (born July 17, 1941) from over 50 years ago. I have been a widower for the last seven years, and she has been a widow for the last year. We are moving into a residence for the elderly and plan on getting married next August and to travel to the West Coast to visit my daughter (born Dec. 20, 1973) and her family.

I have been getting along well with my youngest daughter, but I have another daughter (born May 28, 1971) who just went through a divorce and a son (born Sept. 16, 1979) who seem to have a problem with me since their mother passed away on March 24, 2010. They seem to blame me for all kinds of things, and they do not intend to attend my wedding.

I am just trying to live happily the last years of my life. I took very good care of their mother all the way to the end (she was born Oct. 4, 1949). I’m wondering if I will be financially secure in the years to come, and if my children will ever get close to me again?

I have been living very happily for the last year with my new love. I would appreciate a word of encouragement and if our moving will go well. 
– Worried Aries

DEAR WORRIED ARIES: Life is short. In total, the average person gets to experience approximately 75 to 80 summers — not much, when you think about it. Your natal chart indicates that you are and always have been young at heart, and for you, life goes on. How wonderful to reconnect with someone you can share the remaining years of your life with!

The comparison with your Cancer fiancee shows signs of a karmic connection, so whatever transpires between you is meant to be. Although I do like the comparison, it does show some problems where relatives are concerned. This is likely to do with how friends and relatives react to your relationship. Don’t let what others say come between you. The gift of life is precious, so make choices that make you happy.

Children can be hard on parents as they grow older and realize that the two people who brought them into the world and raised them aren’t perfect. This will pass. You have a nice comparison with your youngest daughter. She understands you best and is happy that you have found someone. Let her talk to her siblings for you.

As for you and your plans, your fiancee falls at the top of your chart, and although she is very charming, she can also be a little stubborn. Strive for equality from day one, and enjoy the ride.

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DEAR EUGENIA: My spouse passed away almost 12 years ago. I haven’t had a date with anyone since his passing. I am an easygoing person, and I talk to everyone. I’ve made some big changes in my life, and I have tried to move forward.

Am I ever going to find a partner — besides an animal — to share the rest of my life with? I was born Aug. 24, 1957, at 6:20 p.m. — Lonely

DEAR LONELY: Your chart indicates there was an opportunity last fall, throughout January and February and in September, and yes, there will be many more opportunities as well. Although you think you are easygoing and may be in some ways, when it comes to love and relationships, you aren’t quite as laid-back as you think. Your standards are high, and there is nothing wrong with that.

You have a buildup of planets (astrological term — Stellium in Virgo) in an area of your chart that deals with relationships and your natal Saturn adversely positioned to your Stellium, which can cause limitations when it comes to finding love. To make matters worse, the past couple of years you also experienced your second Saturn return, and this probably stifled your ability to recognize love when it surfaced in the past.

No relationship is perfect, and they all take work. I do not see you as being alone, as your chart indicates more than one live-in lover throughout your life. It also suggests that it can happen quite quickly once you recognize another’s imperfections as part of what makes them who they are.

Reconnecting with old friends, attending school reunions and getting involved in organizations that fight for a cause you believe are good places for you to look for love.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I’ve been talking to a guy for about four months now, and things have been complicated. I’m not certain if this person even knows what it means to love someone. He acts one way, but his words say something else.

I need to know if I should continue talking to this person or not. The talks are so great and the physical chemistry is great, but as for commitment, I just don’t know if I’m dealing with someone who is willing to be with just me or someone who is having fun for the moment. Does he even see anything in me or in us as a couple? He was born Dec. 10, 1990, and I was born Oct. 30, 1997, at 1 a.m. — Scorpio

DEAR SCORPIO: This is not your best match. Sorrow shows up clearly in an area that has to do with having children. Please take all precautions.

You are in a high cycle when it comes to love, and you are wasting valuable time on someone who isn’t right for you.

You are young, and you have your whole life ahead of you. You should be the one who wants to have fun and live in the moment. Please go out and discover more about you and what you want out of life instead of limiting your chance to explore because you want to latch on to someone.

The reason you are feeling the need to settle down is due to the planets moving through an area of your chart that deals with home and family. If you succumb to this feeling of need and attachment, it will lead to having a family, and 10 years from now, you will have regrets.

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