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Sep 25, 2016

SEPTEMBER 25, 2016

DEAR EUGENIA 

DEAR EUGENIA: I was born Oct. 22, 1958. I got divorced from my wife (an Aquarius) when I was about 44 years old.

Currently, I have an Aries as a partner. She lost her father at age 4 and mother at 19. I believe she might have borderline personality disorder. Her 23-year-old daughter and her daughter’s boyfriend live in my home most of the time. Recently, your daily ‘scope has been referring to “emotional spending” — what do you mean by that? — Libra

DEAR LIBRA: Emotional spending can refer to spending on things you do not need because you are depressed or spending on others trying to buy love. Both can be detrimental to your bank account, and neither will bring the desired results.

Your chart indicates that you are most likely doing OK financially, but that doesn’t mean you should be letting anyone take advantage of the fruits of your labor.

You are currently going through your second Saturn return, and I believe it is making you question your domestic situation and your relationship. This return will be with you for the upcoming year, and it should prompt you to make a decision and change that will improve your life. You went through your first Saturn return when you were around the age of 29 and your second half-life Saturn when you and your Aquarius went through trying times and divorced. So as you can see, there is a pattern with regard to Saturn and your personal relationships. Your first half-life Saturn was around the age of 14.

Remembering what happened during past Saturn transits will help you make the best decision as your situation unfolds with your Aries and her family. Without your Aries’ birth data, it’s difficult to say whether she is right for you, but given your natal chart is as favorable as it is, I’m guessing you’ll come out on top.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I’ve been in a relationship with a boy for two months now. We’re both 14; he was born June 17, 2002, around 2 p.m., and I was born Feb. 16, 2002 at 7:42 p.m. We had an on-and-off friendship before our relationship officially started. In the beginning, the nature of our relationship was fine; however, he has a history of mental illnesses including depression and anxiety, which has made him emotionally unstable.

Lately, he’s started talking about things like college plans, asking me if I would you consider changing my college of choice to attend the same college he is going to. Not only that, he has even mentioned marriage. He’s flattering me nonstop and generally focusing an unhealthy amount of time on how “perfect” and “goddesslike” I am, completely degrading himself in the process. He constantly refers to himself as “weak, stupid and ugly” compared to me.

It’s obvious that I’m only making his depression and opinion of himself worse. However, I can’t bring myself to dump him out of fear as he has attempted suicide several times in the past and has strongly hinted at doing it again if I leave him.

I have no idea if he’s doing it on purpose t, but I can’t do anything to him with that threat hanging over me. His parents are unreachable (his dad blows his college funds on booze and weed, for instance), and he’s already on medication. He has also refused counseling in the past. I’m really afraid, but I can’t stand staying in this relationship for much longer. Thoughts? — Worried Aquarius

DEAR WORRIED AQUARIUS: You, my dear, experienced your first half-life Saturn this past year, and your boyfriend is heading into his in late November. This is a time that often influences friendships, domestic dynamics and educational pursuits. It is obvious by your astrological comparison that you are an intelligent girl who is dealing with someone who is an emotional manipulator. He was born with his natal Venus opposite his natal Neptune, well positioned to his natal Mercury.

Talk to your parents and let them know what’s going on and that you are worried about what he might do. Tell him that if he doesn’t go to counseling and get help through the school or his family doctor, you cannot continue the relationship because it isn’t healthy for either of you.

First and foremost, protect against his inconsistent behavior and mental instability by not spending time alone with him. Surround yourself with close friends and family until this passes. Any threat is worth taking seriously, so don’t underestimate what he might do.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I have studied astrology as a hobby since 1969. Although I was born under an Aries Sun sign, the sun, Venus and Mercury landed in the 12th house, so I relate to more of a Pisces persona. I thank my lucky stars the Aries physical energy keeps me active. At times, though, I feel other people’s energy somewhat draining, yet I feel empathetic and try to remain objective. What are your thoughts? I find your interpretations accurate and sincere. Please let me know if you agree with my take on my natal chart. I was born March 22, 1955, at 6:10 a.m. — Aries/Pisces

DEAR ARIES/PISCES: I believe we are influenced by all 12 signs, not just our Sun sign, but by the Moon and eight planets — and that is just touching the surface, astrologically.

You were born under the sign Aries, so by rights that is the sign you refer to; however, your natal Moon and Mercury (emotions and the way you think and converse) are in Pisces, and your Venus (love and physical health) is in Aquarius. You also have planets scattered around your natal chart with your natal Mars (energy) in Taurus, Jupiter (abundance) and Uranus (sudden change) in Cancer, Pluto in Leo, Neptune in Libra and Saturn in Scorpio, so you see, you really are influenced by quite a bit more.

It’s the angles between the placement of your natal planets that make up your personal fingerprint and the angle between where the planets were situated at the precise moment you were born to where the planets are in the sky today and in the future that determine future possibilities.

Neptune is designated to one’s intuitive awareness and the ability to tap into others’ feelings. In your case, your natal Neptune falls in an area of your chart that deals with relationships, so it is quite likely that the people you deal with will drain you. Having your natal Moon and Mercury conjunct in your 12th house also contributes to a strong emotional tendency to pick up on what others are going through, and that can be emotionally debilitating.

This past year with transiting Saturn adversely positioned to your natal Moon-Mercury conjunction would have been exceptionally difficult. That has now moved off your natal chart, so things should begin to be less taxing for you.

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