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Dear Eugenia

WEEK OF JANUARY 21, 2018

DEAR EUGENIA 

Dear Eugenia: I have been in a relationship for a little over five years. My partner is a Libra (born on Oct. 12, 1971). We both have a previous marriage; mine lasted 17 years and his 10. We met about four months after I left my ex-husband; however, my divorce took three years. My kids were in high school (15 and 16) when we met, but are now grown, and his were 6 and 8 (now 11 and 13). I don’t have any contact with my ex (Pisces, born on March 8, 1952) outside of occasional issues with our kids (very rare).

I have always felt my current partner has never fully severed the relationship with his ex (also Gemini, born on June 18, 1967) in order to ease the divorce/lifestyle disruption on their kids. They have a flexible arrangement where they both have the kids 50 percent. He has a key to “the house” and for a long time would just walk in whenever as if it were still his home. They still celebrate Christmas and birthdays together as a family. I feel their “arrangement” is giving his kids a false reality, and it’s stopping me from fully being accepted by them as their father’s partner in life.

This situation greatly affects our time together as a couple and makes planning difficult, not to mention I’m constantly waiting for him to be available. We love each other deeply, but managing all the other stuff has me feeling resentful, of his kids and his ex and even of him.

We have broken up several times, or tried to, but we can’t seem to make it final. I have a bit of freedom since my kids are grown, and he still has responsibilities. I wanted a partner in life, but now I’m feeling forced to wait until he catches up. I’m afraid if I leave him I will be walking away from the man I’m meant to be with.

I’m torn because I’m scared I am making the wrong decision if I leave, yet also feel that there could be so much more out there for me (I feel like we may even be holding each other back) and I could have a completely different life if I just allow it. Any thoughts? — Gemini

Dear Gemini: There is no doubt that you have a better astrological comparison with your Libra man than he has with his ex, but what you don’t have is the same history that they have with one another.

His ex may be a Gemini, but unlike you, she thinks like a Cancer. If you know anything about the Crab, home and family come first and foremost, and with her Moon in Scorpio, she isn’t about to let go of her children’s father until they are all grown up and living outside their paternal home.

Your partner, being a Libra, isn’t likely to fight his ex or deny his ex this right, so get used to it. The Scales like to keep the peace and are reluctant to make a decision unless pressed to do so.

Should you pressure him, he may make the adjustments you want, but before you do so, realize that as time passes he will resent you for giving him an ultimatum.

If you truly love this man, you are best to enjoy the time you have together and wait until his children go off to school.

Expect your ex to face some limitations and frustrations over the next couple of years and for his ex to be overly emotional. Unfortunately without the birth time for either one, I cannot be more specific.

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Dear Eugenia: I am in love for the first time in my life. He says he is in love with me and wishes things could be different, but he can’t carry on with me because of my past. His birthday is Aug. 6, 1971, and mine is Dec. 17, 1974, at 12 p.m. Do I wait or move on? — Sagittarius

Dear Sagittarius: You are dealing with a man who is capable of being misleading. His chart shows signs of self-deception as well as an ability to be dishonest with others. Not approving of something you have done in the past is probably an excuse. Given his chart, it’s likely he has other reasons for not wanting to be with you.

The comparison is not very good regarding emotional issues, and it is also apparent that the relationship doesn’t present opportunities for either one of you. You are best to let this one go and move on.

You are heading into your second half-life Saturn, and it’s important to evaluate your past and present and make changes that will help you get ahead personally and professionally. Focus on yourself, not chasing someone who can’t love you for who you are.

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Dear Eugenia: I was married to a Jamaican man. He was born on Nov. 4, 1961, and I was born on Jan. 1, 1961, at 12 a.m. I want to know if we are going to get back together. I think he may have married me in order to come to Canada, and since arriving he has gotten together with someone else. Is there any hope or should I move on? — Capricorn

Dear Capricorn: I can see the attraction between you and your Jamaican man, but there are warning signs that you should be aware of before you decide to sit and wait for him to come to his senses.

His chart denotes that he isn’t always honest or reliable and that he can be charming and quite convincing when it comes to getting what he wants.

He falls in an area of your chart that deals with Karma, and I believe although you do have a strong connection, it may also be one built on deception.

Physically you do have chemistry with this man, but aside from that this relationship I believe was intended to resolve past issues.

Without the other woman’s birth information, I cannot tell you if he is using her, but given his natal chart he probably is. Cut your losses, move on and put the past behind you.

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Dear Eugenia

WEEK OF JANUARY 14, 2018

DEAR EUGENIA by Eugenia Last

Dear Eugenia: I was born on Dec. 8, 1986, at 7:20 p.m. I wrote to you one year ago, and I did not mention this, but that night I was about to take my own life. As I was preparing to take the pills, I came across your horoscope on my Facebook feed, and it gave me some degree of hope so that I decided not to take my life and instead message you for advice. You responded, and I was given hope with your reply and hope for me. Things are still not where I would like them to be, but you have given me hope to keep trying and to survive. If was not for you that night, I would not be here today. Thank you so much. — Sagittarius

Dear Sagittarius: Thank you for reaching out to me, for sharing, and for having the strength and courage to strive to survive. No one ever said that life would be easy, but nonetheless it is a gift, and although there is trial and tribulation to overcome, these are all lessons that make us stronger, better and more mindful of others.

Your chart indicates that you have now completed your first Saturn return, the re-evaluation you were supposed to make a year ago took place, and the choices you made were indeed good.

You currently have transiting Jupiter (planet of opportunity) moving into a favorable place in your natal chart with regard to your home, geographical location, travel, immigration, educational pursuits, socializing, networking and finding your beliefs and your way in life.

This is your turning point, and as you move forward, do so with an open mind and an open heart. You have much to discover, to gain and to give thanks for.

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Dear Eugenia: I’ve been dating a Capricorn for the past couple of months. He was born on Jan. 3, 1966. In the beginning, he paid me a lot of attention and took me out for lunch almost daily and also took me out a lot. Recently his attention has been waning, and he just seems to be cold and distant toward me. It took me a while to grow close to him, to understand him, and now it feels as if the more I’m starting to like him, the more distant he becomes.

I recently found out something about him which I confronted him with (as he was hiding it from me), and I don’t know if that changed the dynamic of the relationship, because he saw that I’m not someone that’s afraid to confront things when I’m not happy with him.

I am at a stage of my life where I want to meet the right partner and build a future. I’m done playing around, and I would appreciate any guidance you can give me in terms of my relationship with this man and my romantic future overall. I was born on April 11, 1980, at 2:10 a.m. — Aries

Dear Aries: It isn’t that you and your partner’s astrological charts don’t connect on a number of levels, because you do. But it has more to do with the fact that your Capricorn man’s chart indicates sorrow when it comes to commitment.

It is also apparent that when it comes to his reputation, status and success rate, he may not reveal the whole truth about his past. He is a smooth and convincing talker, so it’s difficult for you to know whether he is exaggerating or withholding pertinent information.

This is a character flaw, so first you have to find a way to coax him to be open and honest with you. If this cannot be accomplished, you are best to keep moving until you find a more suitable partner.

The limitations you have been facing this past year are lifting, and you should find it easier to meet someone worthwhile if you donate any extra time you have toward something you believe in. Someone who shares your concerns will make a better life partner.

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Dear Eugenia: My husband and I decided to embark on a lifelong dream to develop my family property where I grew up, knowing that it would be a good investment and place to grow our financial wealth for our children’s future.

We are both approaching 40 and figured we still have a good 20 years to pay down the debt. We rely mainly on his income, which comes from his family business. The past 13 years have been fruitful on average, and we figured it would be smart to park the next generations of income into a solid investment.

During the construction phase of our home, his business started experiencing significant financial strain at the end of 2015 to present. This has caused extreme stress on all of the family members involved and has led to turmoil amongst everyone, all of whom have personally extended themselves.

My questions are: Will we be able to keep our new home in our family long-term? Will my husband’s family business get back on track? Will his family come to resolve with each other and be able to continue an amicable working relationship? 
My husband’s sign is Cancer, his brother’s is Leo, and his sister-in-law’s is Cancer. I was born June 4, 1978, at 6 a.m. — Gemini

Dear Gemini: I receive a lot of requests from people who decline to add sufficient information for me to guide them. I’m answering your email to make a point and as a reminder to my readers about what to do and not to do if you want me to do a good job delineating the charts applicable to your dilemma.

To begin with, I’m hoping your time of birth (6 a.m.) is accurate. The information I am providing you is based on the information you submitted. If so, it is apparent that you may be able to hold on until the fall of 2018, but at that point you may have to cut your losses. With regard to how you get along with your relatives, your chart indicates that situations will continue to get blown out of proportion and additional stress is likely.

Your husband and sister-in-law, being Cancers, are beginning a 2 1/2-year Saturn transit (limitation, frustration), and your husband’s brother, being a Leo, will be experiencing a Jupiter square, which is often an indicator of taking on too much or lack of moderation.

All this being said, to give you greater insight into your situation, you should have submitted accurate birth data for your husband’s family business based on the registration or incorporation of the company, the prime owners of the business, and your husband’s birth info, along with the birth information for all those involved in your property investment.

Astrology is a mathematical science and an interpretive art. My answers are derived from the information you supply with regard to the day, month, year, time and place of everyone involved in your particular situation. Anything short of that is too little.

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