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Dear Eugenia

WEEK OF October 15, 2017

DEAR EUGENIA 

Dear Eugenia

Haven’t been able to find a job for 2.5 years. Had to start using my Social Security. Found a temporary full-time job, but it will be ending in November/December. I think I’ve been a victim of ageism. Never been sick in my life and now in the span of 2 months, I’ve been in the hospital 3 times. Last time diagnosed with high blood pressure. It’s no wonder considering all the stress I’m under.

Not married…divorced 18 years ago. I’m my only support. I know that Saturn will be leaving Sage in December. What I’m wondering is am I going to be able to find suitable permanent, full-time employment by the time this temporary assignment ends, and will my health issues get better.

I’m the oldest of 4 children, only girl. I was born December 11, 1950 at 6 PM.

Sage

Dear Sage

The health issues should indeed lift when transiting Saturn moves offer your natal Venus mid December. Saturn can also be blamed for some of the work and financial problems you face as well along with transiting Jupiter contributing to the uncertainty and emotional stress.

On a positive note you are heading into a much higher cycle with regard to communication, education and changing direction or updating your current qualifications between mid October and last spring. This will also be a favorable time to consider making a move to a geographical location that offers greater opportunity.

Although you didn’t mention any interest in finding companionship you are in a high cycle right now and should be considering taking on a roommate, finding love or joining groups in your community that can offer some support.

Dear Eugenia,

I am writing to you because I’m extremely confused as to what to do at this point in my life. I was hoping to gain some clarity from a reputable astrologer such as yourself, as I’ve been reading your horoscopes for over ten years now and they are always accurate.

I’m an Aries woman born 4/5/1988, at 6:15 am. I have been in a somewhat tumultuous relationship for almost 6 years with a Scorpio man, born 10/23/1982 around 2:50 am. We love each other, we’ve had our ups and downs but we always come back to each other.

Lately I’ve been feeling restless and I want to make a change in my life, mainly to where I live. It’s a small town with minimal opportunities for advancement. My brother (3/19/1986, time unknown), whom I’ve recently come in contact with for the first time 4 years ago, has invited me to move in with him in Florida, and tells me there are a lot of opportunities there. He has a pretty stable living situation, owns his home, and has a decent job.

I currently live with my mother (5/7/1968, time unknown) and we do not see eye-to-eye most of the time. She has informed me that she wishes for me to move out, which I’ve wanted to do regardless, as I just moved back with her 6 months ago and prefer my own place.

I feel torn between staying here on my own, which I do not wish to, moving with my boyfriend again, which I am leery about and because he has a stable job here and cannot relocate at the moment, and moving with my brother until I establish myself in Florida, and I am uncertain about that situation, but that’s only because I doubt myself and my capabilities at times.

I would greatly appreciate your opinion on this matter, and was curious to see if there are any major transits happening in my chart at the moment that will help put this in perspective. I also just got into a car accident and I’m not finished paying off the car that was totaled. Suggestions please.

~Uncertain Aries

Dear ~Uncertain Aries

You are heading into your Saturn return. This is why you are questioning everything about your life at the moment. It’s not a bad thing but it is a time of reviewing the past assessing your situation and directing your goals to suit your current needs.

There do appear to be a lot of changes with regard to where you live and what you do in the future. The first thing you can rule out is moving forward with your boyfriend. The comparison showed lots of emotional and mental deception and disillusionment as well as anger and resentment. You can both do better.

Your comparison with your brother is okay but there is some sorrow that prevails and emotional deception that I feel is not in your best interest. If you were to take him up on his offer and his situation is still as secure as he claims after the devastation that hit Florida recently this is a possibility but only if you have a job to go to in place giving you the opportunity to move out on your own quickly.

The one you are underestimating in this situation is your mother. It is obvious that although you don’t see eye-to-eye she is looking out for your best interests. Yes she is limiting your freedom to an extent and you hers but the advice she has to offer you and the push she is giving you to stand on your own two feet is called parenting.

What you are best to do at this point is to find a position that can offer advancement and move to the location that has the most to offer. It’s your turn and time to begin again. That’s what your Saturn returns (this being your first) are all about.

Dear Eugenia –

I born May 10, 1963 at 11:26 AM found the most wonderful relationship with the man of my dreams (born January 20, 1965) who felt the exact same way! It was everything we ever wanted. That was, until this summer. He has two adult children who are still very needy, and he has an insatiable need to fulfill each desire and be in on everything and anything in their lives. To a certain extent, I admire this quality in him, but not when everything else in his life is so suddenly dropped his attention to his job, friends, home, us, etc.

While they were away, this wasn’t the case, but now that they are back, our relationship is spotty and only exists within a group setting for the most part. So I have to wonder, will this man ever be available to resume the intimate relationship that we shared for so long, or will he always be seeking outside stimulation to such an exaggerated degree? I adore this man and I know he loves me, but I want to know that he is capable of a lasting, sustainable and healthy commitment that is satisfying to both of us. Thank you for your valuable insight.

Taurus

Dear Taurus,

The very qualities you love about this man are the same ones that will drive you apart. He is without a doubt a family guy. You filled a void while his kids were away and guess what they’ve come back and the lifestyle he is used to living has resumed.

You have a choice. Join in and become part of his world or walk away. To help you make this decision I must add that your astrological comparison is not all that great. It isn’t one that spells sorrow or deceit but just an overall lack of having the same values. Indeed you do get along mentally and physically but is that enough to put up with a man you will have to share with his children.

Your chart indicates that you attract partners quite easily and that you are fun to be with and very one-on-one when it comes to love perhaps someone who isn’t as family-oriented would be better suited. You may be a Taurus by sun sign but you think like a Gemini and love like an Aries.

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Dear Eugenia

WEEK OF OCTOBER 8, 2017

DEAR EUGENIA 

Dear Eugenia: How can I pull up daily horoscopes online from the past week? One of them was so dead-on it was scary.

The last 30 years have been horrible; I’ve been struggling to survive due to bad choices, but otherwise I’m healthy. Please tell me my future is prosperous and good. I was born on Nov. 28, 1953, at 5:45 a.m. — Sagittarius

Dear Sagittarius: Go to my contact page at www.eugenialast.com and request a specific date for past columns, and I will send you a copy.

Thirty years is a long time to endure ongoing struggles. What your chart indicates is that you do have a tendency to make poor choices, and usually it’s because you make such decisions based on emotional assumptions instead of gathering all the facts and doing what’s right or best for you.

You are letting your negative traits be your engine and ignoring all the positive qualities that can help you excel. You are a dreamer with creative genius, a wonderful sharp mind, and depth and innovative abilities, but you don’t follow through.

Your chart denotes that you do make poor financial, legal and contractual decisions because you don’t take time to think matters through, but it’s not because you were born with bad luck or an inability to do well. It’s a lack of patience to let things unfold far enough that you can actually choose wisely.

With the majority of planets in your natal chart above the horizon, it is difficult for you to plant your feet firmly on the ground. This is something you have to work at. Once mastered, you can and will make much better choices.

Better opportunities are heading your way for the duration of this year beginning in November and pretty much through all of 2018. Think, strategize and then take action.

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Dear Eugenia: I was born on Feb. 2, 1994, at 3 a.m. I dated a Leo born on Aug. 19, 1987, for five months. We had a huge falling-out, and I attempted to make it clear that we would never bounce back and I would never agree to forgive and forget.

He has given me space but continues to contact me. We were so in love and things were going so well. There were a few issues here and there, but with his great communication skills, I feel like we’d discuss problems, resolve them and move on. However, this issue was so great it felt/feels impossible to overcome.

Should I give him a second chance or move on? I’ve dated many men and ultimately broken up with almost all of them. I’ve never gone back to someone, ever. Relationships are like eggs — once they’re broken, you can’t put them back together. Would we be able to fix our egg into a sunny side up one, or is this relationship over? — Aqua Gal

Dear Aqua Gal: Your Leo man falls in an area of your chart that deals with learning, communication, beliefs and lifestyle choices. The astrological comparison is probably the best you’ve ever had. However, your chart indicates that you are very fixed and you don’t easily forgive and forget. So before you let this gentle Lion back into your life, ask yourself this: “Will I forever punish him for what he did?” If the answer is yes, you are best to walk away.

The bigger problem is with you, not so much him. You will never find a perfect relationship. You, like everyone else on this planet, have flaws. If you have a man who is willing to openly discuss issues and try to fix them, you should consider that a plus. If, on the other hand, you cannot forgive, there is no way to fix the broken egg.

Your Leo has a playful, flirtatious personality. That’s what you fell in love with, but with your Scorpio ascendant and Aquarius sun sign, it’s difficult for you not to become jealous and distant when things run amok, making this the biggest problem your relationship faces. If you cannot get over what happened, move on.

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Dear Eugenia: Life has disillusioned me as long as I can remember. There has never been stability in my home, family or personal life. The past is clear, but the future is looked on with great apprehension.

This has been the lowest point of my life. I am married for eight years, but the love is completely gone. His prima donna, selfish, mama’s boy personality is too much for me. I have been holding on to my marriage for our two amazing babies.

I want to know if our relationship can be saved. What is going on with my husband, who was born on Oct. 1, 1977? I was born on Nov. 7, 1982, at 4 p.m. I would like to know if there will be love in my life (from my husband or someone else)? Will there be a good career and good things to come? — Disillusioned

Dear Disillusioned: The astrological comparison between you and your husband is actually quite good physically, but when it comes to emotional issues, you are correct: He is attached to his mother. And since you have had children, he sees you as a mother, not a lover.

Your ability to communicate with each other isn’t the best, especially when it has to do with discussions that include his mother. He will always stand up for her, not you, and he will also deny that he is a mama’s boy.

This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t address the issue. Communication is your best choice if you want to alter your relationship, but it is likely you will need a marriage counselor if you want to make progress.

Your chart indicates that you are currently heading into a year of emotional ups and downs regarding home, family and relationship. You will have a tendency to overreact, so counseling will help to balance that temptation.

Your husband’s chart indicates that once the counseling begins, he will be on the defensive. But there is a chance that over time, he will grow to see the importance of making your relationship work by paying more attention to you.

If all fails to bring him around to being less self-absorbed, you will be in a highly romantic cycle for the better part of the upcoming year. This means either he will smarten up and become more affectionate, or someone else will.

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