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Dear Eugenia

WEEK OF July 23, 2017

DEAR EUGENIA 

Dear Eugenia: I have had the same job for the last 17 years, and now I am afraid of two things. I have been a manager for two years, and my branch is finally making money. My district manager put someone from another branch in my officem, and she has been unprofessional and treats me terribly.

I have complained to my district manager, but he and this girl get along well. She was talking to someone on the phone and asked me a question, and then told the person on the phone that she was asking one of HER employees a question. Am I just being paranoid, or is something going on?

The other thing is that back in 1986, I was ticketed for shoplifting. It’s the only thing that I have ever done wrong in my life. It was over 30 years ago, and since that time I have raised two sons, been a Cub Scout mom and PTA president, and now I have to submit to an intensive background check (to get a business license). I have asked the governor for clemency, but it was denied.

The value of things I took was less than $20, but I cannot get it expunged, sealed or pardoned, and I felt so bad about it. I have never told anyone about this, especially not at work, and if this comes out I will lose my job. But I need to pass the background check to get a license; otherwise I am afraid of losing my job. Please tell me if I will be safe. I was born on April 8, 1963, at 4:20 a.m. — Anxious Aries

Dear Anxious Aries: The area of your chart that deals with how you get along with your peers or boss, as well as how well you do, has been going through a rough patch for about two years. Although it does appear to be clearing up, another area of your chart that deals with how you view people, partners and the world around you is being exaggerated. This began last fall and will continue until late October. If you have a concern about your position or about going for your license, you are best to wait until late fall.

Without birth data for your boss or the new addition to your office, I cannot be specific regarding what they are capable of doing in terms of damaging your position. Your chart indicates that it is probably more your problem because of your inability to see things clearly right now. Please hold off making any changes or raising issues for the time being.

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Dear Eugenia: My husband and I are just starting divorce proceedings. We are that couple that never in a million years thought we would divorce. I can’t believe the love is gone. I feel it’s still there. I don’t know if it’s because of me or if it’s him and he thinks he let me down. My question is: Will this end in full divorce, or is the love still there for him? And if I stay, can we ever get back to the love we had in the past? I was born on Feb. 9, 1978, at 9:47 a.m., and he was born on Feb. 7, 1977. — Confused Aquarians

Dear Confused Aquarians: Your astrological comparison certainly has what it takes to go the distance, but too much may have happened (or perhaps not enough) and disillusionment set in. The problems began several years back for him, probably about seven to eight years ago, and for you about four years ago.

Relationships take constant work if you are going to build an equal and loving forever union. This has never been easy in the past, but with today’s distractions, it makes it much more difficult.

The one thing that does stand out in the comparison is emotional deception. In your chart, it falls in an area that deals with hidden matters, secrets and communication. Without his birth time, I cannot tell you where it falls in his chart.

Over the past two years, this particular aspect that joins your charts together has been going through a rough patch, and although it is clearing later this year, I believe it will be too late for the two of you. Both his chart and yours indicate anger and frustration — almost as if you have never really discussed the problems over the years and now it’s at a point of no return. I believe you lost him last fall when something made him feel like there is more to life.

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Dear Eugenia: My problem is financial … and my husband. Financially, what is my future? I work as a small-time government contractor. Is this a compatible vocation for me? Will this lead to a better future?

When I was a child, every feng shui expert my mother met said that I am very lucky, but after I married, they no longer said I drew good fortune. Did my marriage affect my future? My husband’s birthday is Aug. 28, 1967, at 8:20 p.m., and mine is Sept. 3, 1969, at 2:45 p.m. — Questioning Virgo

Dear Questioning Virgo: With regard to your career working within government, institutions or large corporations, your chart does show promise. However, this past year you should have been taking courses that are geared toward your advancement. This unfortunately ends mid-fall and will not be in your best interest again until 2021. At that point it looks more favorable not only to learn, but also to teach, travel and work in a field that has more to do with transportation and communication.

Your chart indicates that you indeed do land on your feet, but sometimes people born with a chart like yours don’t try as hard because things come much quicker and easier to them. This can make you view your marriage as the reason your luck has changed. If anything, it’s your unhappiness in your marriage that is making you feel this way.

Your comparison with your spouse isn’t bad — it’s just not as exciting or beneficial as you wanted it to be. He falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead ends, so it’s hard to build a future with him. You fall in an area of his chart that deals with children, socializing and creativity. If these three components aren’t incorporated into your marriage, it will be difficult to keep it afloat.

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Dear Eugenia

WEEK OF JULY 16, 2017

DEAR EUGENIA 

Dear Eugenia: I lost my husband, best friend, lover and companion on Jan. 9, 2010. Since 1985, we knew he would die early, due to polycystic kidneys, but not at 55.

Immediately after his death, my youngest son was deployed to Afghanistan and came back a broken, violent man. When he left, I became obsessed with the idea that I was going to lose both of them, and it broke me.

I have become a recluse, diagnosed with extreme anxiety disorder and major depression. My behavior now is the opposite of what I used to be. What hope do I have of recovering from this hell of a life?

I always found it interesting that my birthday, July 1, 1952, at 12 a.m. is exactly in the middle of the year and that my birth took place at midnight. — Cancer

Dear Cancer: It’s difficult to lose someone you love, but even more difficult to watch your child go through such a transformation after being subjected to brutal situations.

You didn’t mention when your son was born, but looking at your chart, there appears to be a turning point for him between mid-October and the end of November that in some way will bring peace to both of you.

Your chart indicates that your ability to open up and begin to live again will increase as the year comes to a close. The possibility of reaching out to someone from your past, or having someone reach out to you, will help you make the leap from recluse to participating in life again.

Please do not sit back. Even though you find it difficult to go out, connect using social media. It will help you get back to a place mentally, emotionally and physically that will give you hope for a brighter future.

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Dear Eugenia: My stepdaughter is acting out. She was born on Jan. 23, 2003. Her mom is a drug addict and has been out of jail since February. She lives in another state. We have sole custody with supervised visitation in our county.

Her mom hasn’t visited since we got custody (three-plus years ago). My stepdaughter feels her mom has changed, and she wants to go live with her. She is getting in trouble at school and at home. She is always angry.

My husband is having a hard time. He is hurt and feels betrayed. He is sad and angry. He was born on April 24, 1980, at 9 a.m., and I was born on Jan. 6, 1981, at 3:11 p.m. I don’t know what to do. — Capricorn

Dear Capricorn: You didn’t mention your stepdaughter’s time of birth or submit her mother’s birth data, which limits what I can offer you in terms of insight.

What I can tell you is that your stepdaughter has been going through her first half-life Saturn since late last year. This will continue until November. This transit will make her reconsider her current situation and can lead to change. Because the problems she is experiencing are affecting both school and home, I can understand her desire to get away. Her big disappointment will come from her inability to see her situation clearly regarding her biological parents.

Her astrological comparison to her father is pretty normal but does show anger when dealing with what she wants and any matter regarding her mother. This anger falls in an area of his chart that deals with communication. He needs to find common ground with her and an outlet that they can enjoy together. I cannot tell you where it falls in her chart without her time of birth.

Your comparison with her is adequate, but there doesn’t appear to be much of an attachment where love and affection are concerned. I do believe that offering to spend more time doing girl things might help, but she may reject that idea given her current state of mind.

She is extremely inquisitive and is also quite proficient at making up stories and twisting things around, not only when dealing with others but also when she looks within for answers. This is probably why she is considering the move. She was born with what I consider a spoon-fed chart, which means she gets what she wants and lands on her feet — like the cat with nine lives, until the last one runs out.

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dear Eugenia: I was wondering if you can help point me in the right direction. I was born on March 28, 1985, at 8:24 a.m. I have screwed up my credit horribly; my cash income is almost nonexistent. What can I do to get my income higher? I wish to get a better job, one that is suited to what I want to do in my career.

I am currently in school while trying to work and be a single mom of a child born on Dec. 4, 2008, at 11:59 a.m.

My current love interest is being chaotic at best. He was born on Sept. 8, 1987, at 8 p.m. However, my daughter’s father is always giving me issues and trying to be manipulative as well. What is the best way to deal with him and his family? He was born on Sept. 3, 1982, at 8:42 a.m.

I feel pulled in so many different directions and need to know which is the best way to get ahead in life. — Aries

Dear Aries: Although educational pursuits are never a bad thing, you may have picked the wrong course or direction given your timing and what shows up in an area of your chart that deals with learning. If you have been struggling this past year, you will find that it will be easier to find a suitable direction beginning this fall.

Your chart indicates that under normal circumstances, you are lucky when it comes to money. However, the past couple of years you have experienced transits that led to poor financial decisions. This transit will continue to plague you until late 2018. It’s important that you take a disciplined approach to your spending along with what and whom you invest in. Your child should be your first priority, and if that means getting along with your ex and his family, then do so.

With regard to direction, your chart indicates that you could actually do quite well working within institutional environments. This means government agencies, educational and financial institutions, hospitals/medical, judicial or research sectors. Your chart offers the flexibility to make money in many different ways, although it also states that you will bore easily and are drawn to more obscure professions. Keep in mind that if you want to stabilize and secure your financial future, you are best to stick to traditional means.

Regarding your lover and your ex, your concern should be who matches up best to your child. The bottom line is that your baby’s father wins. As for your lover — not so much if at all.

As for you matching up to one or the other, you do fit better with your lover, but not well enough for him to step in and take part in raising your child. Perhaps your choice in men is behind the trouble your ex and his family are sending your way.

Both your lover and your ex should have been just a social encounter, nothing more. You are currently in a high cycle regarding finding love, so keep looking.

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Dear Eugenia

WEEK OF JULY 9, 2017

DEAR EUGENIA 

     Dear Eugenia: After years of low-paying jobs, I reinvented myself, returning to university and gaining a BA and then an MA to work in development (in non-profit organizations). I’m finally being paid a reasonable wage, in a small developing country with a job that is really challenging but also satisfying.

I have a cheap rental house that looks over the sea, and I regularly holiday in places that others dream of. In many respects, I’ve achieved and am fulfilling so many of my goals, including making some headway into saving to buy my own home. But for some reason I don’t feel happy at all.

Part of the problem is that working in this sector means meeting lots of people who generally are quite mobile. It takes me a while to form friendships, but here, they tend to leave before I can establish any sort of relationship. I’m quite lonely and would love to meet a man who shares my passion for this work, but who would also be happy with my dream of a cottage in the country somewhere.

Unfortunately, I really don’t meet many men, and those I do are married with children. Do you see any change in this situation, or should I prepare myself for being the single, strong woman I’ve been for so long? I was born on Sept. 23, 1975, at 5:30 a.m. — Gypsy

Dear GYpsy: You are in a high cycle until December of this year. However, it will take more effort on your part to meet someone who can fill your void. Your chart does not indicate that you can’t find love or that you will not have a serious relationship, but it does suggest that uncertainty prevails due to a lack of being able to commit or put your personal life before your professional one.

It’s not uncommon for Virgos to marry late in life or to be somewhat picky when it comes to personal partnerships. Although you have your natal Sun in Virgo, it is placed in an area of your chart that deals with how you view relationships and your partners. You think like a Libra, love like a Leo and show emotions like an Aries.

Step outside your comfort zone between now and the end of the year and sign up for activities, events or vacations geared toward singles. Don’t limit your choices by only considering someone from your background, culture, religion or profession. An open mind will encourage you to give both friendship and love a chance.

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Dear Eugenia: Everything was supposed to be looking up. All but my financial situation was working out, and then, Mike’s illness struck. He is my best friend, my love and my retirement buddy.

Our plans have been shot. His mother is now taking care of him. It’s crushing for her to take care of her only son this way. September will be three years since my strokes. 
I’ve reapplied for disability because I’m unable to keep a job that will support me, and basically I’m starting over: no home, no vehicle, no savings. I made a good living and raised three kids who are in college or better. I’m on Medicaid, and I sure can’t afford to lose my benefits now with doctor’s appointments weekly.

I’m at my parents’ home, taking care of my father since my mother is gone. I make his meals, drive his car to the store and doctors, do his laundry, do all the cleaning and make sure he takes his meds.

I can’t up and leave Dad now, but I have four sisters living within 5 miles. It’s hard on me emotionally and physically. 
I’m dying a slow death here. I have lost all hope for any kind of happiness. My sisters won’t step in to help me. And I can’t take good care of my dad on my own.

I’m desperate. I’m just so sad without my Mike and everyday life as I knew and loved. My youngest lives here also, and I can’t become a burden to her. I need advice. I was born on Aug. 12, 1962, at 2:29 a.m. — Leo

Dear Leo: Your chart denotes that where your siblings are concerned, they have had their own problems to deal with over the past few years, and this has made it difficult to help you more than they already do. The problems they are experiencing appear to be clearing up as the year progresses, and you should be able to get more assistance beginning late this year and throughout most of 2018.

Your daughter should be happy to step up and help, given your situation and the fact that she is living for free. Even if she is still a young adult, she should be contributing. You raised her, put a roof over her head and gave her life. No parent wants to lean on his or her children, but as we age or become ill that is what family does. They all pitch in. You have to stop being a martyr and start calling out for help for both your and your father’s sake.

Your chart indicates that even though you are a Leo by Sun sign, you think more like a Virgo and therefore aren’t all that willing to rely on others.

The past three years you have been riddled with limitations, but those are lifting as we approach the end of the year, and there are better days ahead beginning as early as late fall and continuing throughout next year.

That said, it’s still up to you to make things happen. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Reach out and ask for assistance, and you’ll be surprised by the communal effort that is offered.

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Dear Eugenia: I’m still living at home with my parents. I feel stuck in my life. I would like to know if I’m ever going to get married. Also, how much longer will I be staying at my parents’? I would love to know what career path to take. I am not in a good financial position at this time. I was born June 3, 1979, at 1:07 a.m. Any suggestions? — Gemini

Dear Gemini: Where education, relationships and your domestic situation are concerned, your natal chart has been under constant limitations and frustrations for the past five years. It’s been a time that muted your growth and left you in the position you currently are faced with.

Part of the problem is that you were born with some difficult aspects in your chart that cause emotional and mental self-deception and disillusionment. This makes you choose unrealistic expectations and aspirations. Until you set your goals and sights on something tangible, nothing will change.

With regard to school, you are coming into a high cycle beginning this fall that will stay with you for the next couple of years. If you apply yourself, you will do quite well.

My suggestion is an apprenticeship, obtaining a license in real estate or sports therapy, or a course that will prepare you to work in the hospitality or travel industry. You have a vivid imagination that should be channeled to avoid picking up bad habits that stifle your ability to advance.

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