SUNDAY, JUNE 30, 2019
DEAR EUGENIA by Eugenia Last
DEAR EUGENIA: I’ve been divorced for almost five years. My 16-year marriage was emotionally exhausting. I had to fight not to lose my personality every day. I had to work hard to regain my joy and confidence. I believe I am an attractive woman, and I deserve to be loved and respected.
Since my divorce, I had a few flings and a short relationship that was very emotional. It caused me anguish and sadness and took me some time to recover. I needed time to find my old, pre-marriage self and set my priorities. Being a mother was the most important thing for me.
About six months ago, I started a relationship with a wonderful man I’ve known for almost 10 years. I considered him a cherished friend and never thought he had a romantic interest in me. I enjoy our conversations and every moment we spend together. We are very comfortable. I feel secure around him, and I smile much more since I started seeing him romantically.
My concern is how committed my friend is to a long-term relationship. I am afraid to ask him, and perhaps he is afraid to ask me. He knows that independence is essential to me. My friend has been divorced and single for a long time. His children are all grown with their own families.
He is disciplined and set in his ways and habits. I am wondering if he has forgotten that being in a romantic relationship requires compromises. I understand and respect this; I don’t consider myself needy. However, in the past, I’ve been way too accommodating. We’ve been discreet about our relationship, but I am ready to be more involved in each other’s lives. The age difference between us is not lost on me but doesn’t bother me.
I realize I should address my concerns with my friend, but I am afraid I will “break the spell” or that I might be afraid of his answer. I was born on Jan. 6, 1973, at 4:45 a.m. My friend was born on March 14, 1950. — Capricorn
DEAR CAPRICORN: Your sign usually does much better with a partner who is much younger or much older. The astrological comparison is about as good as it gets — however, not perfect — but what is?
The uncertainty you are experiencing has more to do with you than it does with him, along with your eagerness to step your relationship up a notch.
Between now and late fall, your chart is in a high cycle regarding love and romance. This transit should not be wasted. Confront your Pisces man, and find out where he stands. If he backs away, you still have the rest of the year to seek that special forever relationship.
Without his time of birth, it’s difficult to say what his reaction will be. I don’t think he does well with ultimatums, but he does respect honesty. His chart also shows signs of uncertainty, but I cannot be specific regarding what area of his life it’s affecting without an accurate chart.
Should he back away, I believe he will have regrets in 2020, so you could end up back together if you don’t find someone who can fill his shoes.
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DEAR EUGENIA: Thank you ever so much for your excellent weekly horoscopes! They’re uncannily accurate.
I have been facing a lot of job insecurity and struggles in workplaces during the past few years. I have been searching for work for the last seven months. I’m also applying for jobs abroad in the hope I can move and start a new life elsewhere. It is proving to be very difficult.
I am with an Aquarian man (born Feb. 18, 1962), but we are not really moving forward. I am hoping that I can meet someone more suitable. If you have any ideas on how I can break this deadlock, I would be very grateful. I put 150 percent into everything I do, but there’s not much coming back to me. I’d love to have some stability in my life as well as a child if it’s not too late. My birthday is Sept. 14, 1974, at 10:02 a.m. — Virgo Sun
DEAR VIRGO SUN: You are experiencing your second half-life Saturn, and yes, that means you are up for a move and a lifestyle change. With transiting Jupiter moving through an area of your chart that deals with how you earn your living, you should be able to find a job opportunity between now and the end of the year.
What has been holding you back is procrastination. You may be a Virgo, but you think and physically take action like a Libra, and that means you tend to waffle if you hit a roadblock.
Start by picking the location you’d like to live, and consider the current employment trend in that area. If you lack skills or qualifications, do your best to pick up additional attributes to position yourself for success.
Your Aquarius friend should have been a friend, nothing more.
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DEAR EUGENIA: Since I finished college, I have struggled to find gainful employment. I tried many approaches, and nothing worked. Twelve years later, with a master’s degree and now a certificate in an unrelated field, I am optimistic I might find work. I have a couple of interviews coming up.
Also, I have struggled to form romantic relationships throughout my life. I had one serious relationship in my early twenties, and since then, I have not met anyone I really like. Based on my chart, do you think this could change at some point? I was born on June 27, 1985, at 8:11 a.m. — Cancer
DEAR CANCER: Your chart indicates that when it comes to both love and work, you look for quality, stability and security. You are particular and not likely to settle for less than what you want. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact, it can save you a lot of regret, heartache and mistakes.
Transiting Saturn is finally moving through an area of your chart that deals with work and how well you get along with your peers and boss. What this indicates is that if you are personable, show a tendency toward being a team player and you do your best to get to know the people you work with outside of work, you can do quite well. This can also lead to meeting the love of your life. You will be in a high cycle romantically in 2020.
The problem in the past may have been a reluctance to let your personal and professional life overlap. You’ve studied hard, you’ve got the knowledge; however, social skills will make the difference in how successful you are moving forward.
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