Dear Eugenia

SUNDAY, MARCH 17, 2019

DEAR EUGENIA by Eugenia Last

DEAR EUGENIA: Am I ever going to find someone who’s going to love me? I ended a 15-year relationship because of my partner’s lies and him always talking bad about my daughter and me behind my back. I loved him, but I know he had someone on the side and lied about it.

He lives in a different country, so our time together was limited. He said he would always be here for us, but that was just words. I was always there for him and had his back when no one else did.

I explained how I felt to him all the time, but he always thought he was right and never really cared about my happiness or me. I was born Jan. 20, 1977, at midnight. — Aquarius

DEAR AQUARIUS: You did not mention your ex’s birth data so I cannot tell you anything about him or whether you should consider resuming your relationship with him. What I can tell you is your chart indicates you are not the best when it comes to choosing a lover or partner.

It’s not that you don’t get the opportunity; you do attract men. However, you tend to like the ones who are not capable of giving you what you want.

This year you will be prone to making poor choices between July and October. This can be letting your ex back into your life or ending up with someone who is similar or who isn’t the best choice for you or your daughter. Please have an astrological comparison cast before you make a decision regarding your love life.

You will have a better chance of finding true love in February or August until November 2020. You match up best to the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Capricorn.

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DEAR EUGENIA: Could you maybe give me a hint what I could be experiencing in the years 2020 and 2023? I feel like these years are important, but I am not able to figure it out by myself.

Also, maybe you could do the same for my Sagittarius as well (born Dec. 13, 1967). Life has changed so much, and now it’s like we are living with no idea what we want. I feel like I can’t make decisions. Life feels timeless and strange in a way for both of us. I was born June 10, 1980, at 2:15 p.m. Please help. — Gemini

DEAR GEMINI: What you should be concerned about is what you are going through this year before you start planning too far ahead. Your chart indicates you are going through plenty of uncertainty. However, it also specifies you are overreacting and that indulgent qualities prevail. The first step is to achieve and maintain balance in your life and to consider taking a step back and minimalizing before you do go into a growth period.

Opportunities begin to head in your direction toward the end of this year turning 2020 and 2021 into a couple of years of opportunity before you hit another change in 2022 where you will be subject to making poor decisions. 2023 will be good for relationships, personal change and creative endeavors.

Without your partner’s time of birth, I cannot be specific, but what I can tell you is that your partner is also experiencing a year of uncertainty and the timing as to highs and lows are comparable to yours. This being said, what I am not seeing is the best comparison between the two of you. There appears to be emotional deception and problems with communication as well as when dealing with past relationships and one another’s friends and families.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I was born Feb. 26, 1975, at 6:15 a.m. I have hypertension and Graves’ disease, also thyroid problem, but it doesn’t end there. My husband has been cheating on me with his ex-wife (born March 12, 1961). She is a Pisces like me, and my husband is a Capricorn (born Jan. 15, 1959).

I would like to know when this cheating is going to end. I have to handle my health problems and my marriage problem, and my patience is wearing thin. Please help. — Pisces

DEAR PISCES: Let me begin by saying that when it comes to love, your husband’s ex-wife has her natal Venus in Aries, not Pisces, so the empty promises may not apply to romance. Without a time of birth for her or for your husband, I cannot be specific, but I can confirm that you have a better astrological comparison with your husband than he has with his ex.

What may get in the way is emotional manipulation and possessiveness that is apparent in your chart when it comes to your personal relationships. With transiting Jupiter moving through the constellation Sagittarius, it is playing havoc with your emotional well-being and your insight into the situation between your husband and his ex-wife. Emotional deception is present but so is an inability to be reasonable and to see things for what they truly are.

The more pressure or blame you put on your husband, the further away from resuming your relationship with love, respect and honesty you will become. Please adjust your thinking when dealing with this matter, and instead of accusing him, offer love, be fun to be around and nurture the relationship instead of disrupting it.

Your health issues were out of control during 2018. However, you appear to have some reprieve happening there this year. Much will depend on your attitude and ability to put worry and stress to rest. Focus on using positive means and actions in your personal life; it will relieve you physically as well.

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