Dear Eugenia

SUNDAY, AUGUST 12, 2018

DEAR EUGENIA by Eugenia Last

DEAR EUGENIA: I met my last girlfriend on a dating site. Shetold me she was in the process of getting a divorce from her second husband and needed money to pay for her legal fees. The man she is currently still married to doesn’t want a divorce. He has threatened her and had her arrested when she fought back in self-defense. A friend loaned her $20,000 for bail. She then asked me for $10,000, which I took out of my personal savings.

Two weeks ago, we took a few days to get away together. We were very intimate, and when I was falling asleep she said she was going to go downstairs to put more credit on her casino card. When I woke up early the next morning, she had not returned, so I texted her to make sure she was OK. She told me she was on her way back to the room. When she arrived, I asked where she had been half the night. She said she was waiting for some people to show up that she needed to pay back. She no longer smelled of the perfume she wore when she left.

Did she go with some guy, then take a shower afterward? Did she cheat on me? I usually don’t talk to my family about my relationships, but I sounded the alarm because the incident and her behavior at the casino were questionable.

Some of my family said she was gambling. My friend in California said she was cheating on me. They say it’s in my best interest not to see her anymore. My parents said she took my $10,000 and gambled it away and that she is no good, so I broke up with her. But I still have feelings for her. The relationship has soured, and I’m confused. I was born April 6, 1969, at 9:20 a.m., and she was born Dec. 15, 1972.– Aries

DEAR ARIES: I understand why you are missing her so much. The comparison is really good emotionally, mentally and physically. However, there is deception and disillusionment as well.

Her chart indicates that she is not the most trustworthy person, and although she may be quite charming and convincing, I believe she has taken advantage of you. She is a grand master at the art of manipulation, and although I believe she truly is attracted to you, she is also not reliable, honest or someone who will bring opportunity into your life or contribute to working toward a better life as a couple. This is a difficult person for you to let go of, but you are better off without her.

On a positive note, your chart indicates you will head into a cycle that is conducive to finding love and romance that shows more promise the last couple of months of the year. Don’t be discouraged or let this woman cause you more grief. She will use emotional manipulation to take advantage of you if you let her back into your life.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I am a single mother with two children. I’ve been single for the past four years. I was in an awful relationship, and I’ve been using this time to work on myself, heal and to get my life together.

I find myself lonely and wondering if I will ever find a good man or if that ship has sailed. I also wonder if I am doing my best and making the best choices for my little family.

I’m lost, and I really need some guidance, advice and direction for what feels like the next stage of my life. My birthday is Feb. 11, 1981, at 9:01 p.m. Thank you so much. — Aqua L.

DEAR AQUA L.: With transiting Saturn moving through an area of your chart that deals with home and family, it is no wonder you are beginning to feel that you want to settle into a relationship and make good, solid choices for your family. This transit makes you question and re-evaluate the past and present in hopes of moving forward. You can expect to be going through this process for the next 18 months. Use this time to make positive changes, such as educational pursuits, travel, communication and activities and events that will bring you in contact with potential partners.

Greater opportunities for love and romance are heading your way, and by the end of the year and throughout next year, you are likely to meet someone special. Aries, Leo, Libra or Aquarius match up to you. However, always ask for an astrological comparison before introducing someone new into your home.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I am in a serious relationship with a Cancer male born July 4, 1985, at 1 p.m. I love him deeply, and for the most part we have a good relationship. My concern is that I love him more than he loves me. He is very moody and retreats on his own a lot.

We have two children and have been together for more than a year and a half. We found out we were having twins after one month of being together, but we made it work and things have been really good. I also have a 9-year-old daughter from a previous relationship, and he is a wonderful stepfather and father and a great partner, but I feel we lack emotional communication.

I worry he is having online relationships, because he is very private regarding his phone and spends a lot of time on it. I also wait on him hand and foot, and I enjoy doing so, but I don’t want to be taken advantage of. I have a hard time speaking up when something bothers me, and that doesn’t help the situation.

My main concern is whether this relationship is as strong as I think it is. Will it last based on our birth data? Should I make an effort to open up about my concerns, or should I get ready to pack my bags?

How can I make it a lasting relationship? I really do love him, and I feel he loves me too. He is so distant at times and hard to read. I blame myself for being flawed in some way rather than asking him about it. I’ve never caught him lying in any way. He is always straightforward and honest, but I find it odd that he is so private and closed off at times. I was born Dec. 19, 1987, at 12:31 a.m. — Sagittarius

DEAR SAGITTARIUS: Cancers are known for their secretive and moody nature. Being distant is one of their traits, and it can be quite unnerving if you are trying to decipher how they feel about you. The best way to find out is to ask. Communication is always better than getting worked up over nothing or making inaccurate assumptions.

All that being said, I would like to mention that the comparison, although quite good physically, lacks mentally, and there is an indication that one or both of you is not being open or honest about the way you feel. This appears to be with regard to how you live, possibly where you live or the current lifestyle you have.

The fact that you have a physically engaging comparison is a good sign. However, potential boredom or lack of finesse in your relationship due to family circumstances (children) and never having much time without youngsters under your feet is probably an underlying cause of your dilemma.

Communication is the best way to address issues. Discuss planning date nights and let him know you feel left out if he shares more with his phone than with you. You cannot resolve issues unless you get them out in the open. It’s worth the time, effort and work.

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