WEEK OF June 10, 2018
DEAR EUGENIA by Eugenia Last
My husband died on 8/11/2013. It has been almost 5 years and I have relocated. I had a long distance friendship with an old friend that began when he texted me late October 2015. We met face to face on 3/29/16 and have been doing the “should we, shouldn’t we” relationship dance ever since. He is divorced. We both had issues to overcome. I feel ready to move into a deeper relationship, will he? I was born June 26, 1957 at 11:35 AM and he was born June 8, 1957.
The comparison between you and your Gemini friend is quite good. The mental and physical connection is superb however emotionally there is an element of disillusionment that ties into the past, old friends and most of all both your assets and how best to deal with such matters should you move forward.
He may be a Gemini by Sun sign but having his natal Mercury (thought process) in Taurus will lead to a what’s his and what he wants to ensure he keeps for perhaps a dependent will be of utmost importance. This along with having his natal Venus (Love) in Cancer representing home and parental and family responsibilities makes it difficult for him to move forward.
These matters have to be discussed openly and perhaps some paperwork put into place to ensure that you both maintain what you bring into the relationship monetarily first and foremost.
With transiting Saturn in an area of your chart that deals with home and family you are more then ready to settle down. Without his time of birth I do not know how transiting Saturn is influencing him however it probably has put in into a quandary regarding should he stay or should he go.
Communication is required if you want this relationship to move to the next level.
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I switched jobs and have been working at this new company for almost a year and a half now. It is a really good company however some days I like it and some days not so much. Simple things can take a long time to get done. How do you see my career path moving forward?
I have 3 kids with my common law partner. Her b-day is November 13 1985 and mine is October 28, 1983 at 9:30 AM. We have been together 12 years. What are your thoughts on us?
When you changed jobs your chart was experiencing some frustration and limitations where work was concerned which gave rise to the highs and lows you have been going through since the switch. Last fall transiting Jupiter may have caused some uncertainty regarding whether or not you made the right choice however that appears to be clearing up somewhat between now and the fall.
My concern is as the year comes to a close and throughout 2019 you will have some interesting transits passing through your chart that can influence your status and position. On the positive side it appears to be good from a work perspective and either another job change within or to a competitive company. However, personally your situation at home or with important relationships problems could arise due to taking on too much, lack of attention or someone overreacting or being indulgent.
Your relationship with your Scorpio partner appears to be more of a karmic connection and a learning experience. Drifting apart is something you have to watch out for. Relationships take work and open and honest communication to maintain equality and balance.
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2016 was a devastating year. I experienced a theft of items that were sentimental to me. My friend (Sig. Other) had a severe Stroke that left him with paralysis on his left side which for a person who works with his hands continues to frustrate and demoralize him. Then, the coup de grace was the Stage 4 diagnosis lung cancer of my son- born 8:50 pm on June 13 1984. He died on January 10, 2018.
I have had other challenges like a betrayal by my husband years ago, a niece as well. I am reeling from all these challenges. I fear what is in store for me in the future. I fear that when something appears to be going well a major event will blindsides me.
I often feel burdened, that I am in the wrong place at the wrong time…. out of place…do not belong… even ‘cursed’…. And I don’t know why as I have strived to help those around me…. Why?
I have a daughter. I fear for her now. She was born 11 am, Oct 20 1987…. she is my only blood family left. I was born January 9, 1953 at 11:10 AM. Please offer reasons for all this “badness” .
2016 was a particularly difficult year for you due to transiting Saturn, however that isn’t the only reason you have experienced such problems throughout your life. You were born with your natal Sun adversely positioned to your natal Neptune in an area of your chart that deals with relationships, possessions, home and reputation. What this means is that you are prone to experiencing disillusionment, deception, misunderstandings and mishaps in these areas of your life.
Your daughter has a very different chart from that of your son’s however not that different than yours which bares the burden of helping others and being shafted often. The best way to protect her is to teach her to not be as trusting and gullible and to look out for herself first. Earlier this year she began to experience a transit that can cause confusion with regard to important relationships, her position, status or reputation. This will continue until December making it important for her to be on guard.
A loss of a child is one you never get over. I know that one first hand having lost a child as well. My heart goes out to you. Your chart indicates that you are going through depression this year due to incidents that have happened with people you love. As Saturn continues to move across the top of your chart you should be learning from the past and focusing on the future and how best to make the most of what you do have going for you. In other words walk away from the negative and toward the positive. The positive being that you have transiting Jupiter moving through an area of your chart that deals with partnerships, assets, improving your home and relationships with those you love and coming into unexpected opportunities, gains and gifts.
The next two years should be spent weeding out what you no longer need. Put the past behind you and branch out in a direction that will ease stress. Happiness is the prerequisite of doing what’s best for you.
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