Dear Eugenia

SUNDAY, JUNE 3, 2018

DEAR EUGENIA 

DEAR EUGENIA: I’ve been unhappily married with my partner (born Dec. 15, 1977), and at this point cannot fathom where it’s heading or going to end up. I was involved with another (born Dec. 24, 1978), who is unavailable, and I believe I need to let that go. I was born Dec. 6, 1975, at 8:17 a.m. Any suggestions or indications of what might happen in the next year or two regarding my current situation? I’m at a loss and don’t know what to expect or to do next. — Unhappily Married

DEAR UNHAPPILY MARRIED: I always find it such a shame when a couple has a pretty amazing astrological comparison and still can’t seem to make it work. Relationships, like most things in life, take effort, togetherness, communication and definitely as time passes, dedication to keeping the mental, physical and emotional love fired up.

First to rid you of any second thoughts regarding your unavailable partner, let’s just say you don’t match up as well. However, when in the midst of love and passion, and without any actual responsibilities to one another, it’s easy to think you’ve found the person of your dreams.

You and your current partner have experienced some very limiting transits the past three years that have contributed to some of the problems you are facing. However, neither one of you, from what I can see, has worked hard enough to make this relationship work. I believe with communication and perhaps counseling you may be able to turn things around. You owe it to one another to give this relationship the next two years to see if you can salvage what’s left.

Both being born under the sign Sagittarius doesn’t make it easy for the two of you to live up to whatever commitment you made to one another. With your Sun sign falling in an area of your chart that is secretive and conducive to affairs, it isn’t surprising you looked for love elsewhere instead of working on mending your marriage. To make matters worse, your spouse’s Sun sign also falls in this very secretive area of your chart as well. Without your spouse’s time of birth, I cannot tell you where Sagittarius falls in his or her natal chart, but if it’s anywhere else, I’d say you stand a chance of reconciliation if you are both willing to try.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I’ve often seen you say things like “you were born under this sign, but love like another sign.” I’ve tried to read my chart, but I don’t know that I fully understand everything I read. It seems vague.

I’m curious because I was technically due early April, but my mother had to induce labor and I was born March 25, 1973, at 3:51 p.m. instead. Does when you were “supposed” to be born play any part? I feel I possess a lot of Aries traits, such as being bold, direct and determined. However, I’m also pretty insecure and unsure of myself, which is the opposite of the usual confident Aries.

On a separate note, I have not been in any sort of romantic relationship in more than 10 years. I’ve been on dates and had several crushes but nothing seems to work out. I read somewhere that people born on March 25th are very likely to end up alone. That makes me sad because I really would like to have love in my life. I’ve tried setups and online dating. It just seems I can’t find anyone I connect with. Either I’m not interested in them or they aren’t interested in me. It’s very lonely.

Perhaps some insight into my first question could help me out with the second. — Aries Girl

DEAR ARIES GIRL: A natal chart is like your fingerprint; you cannot read about your Sun sign and expect it to be anything but vague. Your natal chart is based on the moment the umbilical cord is cut. At that precise moment in time your life manual or roadmap came to be.

You are an Aries by Sun sign, and you have your natal Venus in that sign as well, so indeed you do tend to love like an Aries as well, but you think like a Pisces. You also have your natal Neptune adversely positioned to your natal Mercury, so this is where the confusion or insecurity comes into play. This particular aspect between Mercury and Neptune falls between an area that represents your home and domestic situation and your important relationships with others. To make matters a little more difficult, your natal Saturn is also adversely situated to your natal Neptune and Mercury, limiting your ability to see relationships clearly as well as choosing the right partner.

Your chart indicates you will be in a high cycle this fall regarding such matters, but you should probably reevaluate what it is you are looking for in a partner and consider someone who complements your natal chart. An Aries, Leo, Libra or Aquarius is a safe bet.

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DEAR EUGENIA: I wrote to you nine years ago about my relationship, asking if my partner and I were compatible and if we would work out. You said we were compatible. However, our relationship just ended. His date of birth is Dec. 4, 1971, and I was born Sept. 20, 1976, at 2:52 a.m.

I am sad he is gone, but I always felt he never truly loved me and that he was never really mine. He had two alcoholic parents, and I felt the love he gave me was always surface, if that makes sense.

He was married prior to me for 12 years, and she left him. I knew he would never want to marry me, and I have never been married. I guess I am just looking for some wisdom from you. — Sad Virgo

DEAR SAD VIRGO: A good comparison doesn’t always mean smooth sailing. I know that since the beginning of this year Saturn has played a role in bringing this most recent development into play. It began to plague both you and your partner about three years ago when your partner experienced his second half-life Saturn.

This means he has been considering moving along for sometime — not because of something you do or did — but because he is feeling uncertain about life and what he might be missing. With transiting Saturn sitting on his natal Venus most of this year, it causes a make-it-or-break-it mindset regarding life and love. He is apt to make several changes this year and next. However, without his time of birth, it’s hard to speculate where or which way he will head.

Your chart indicates that you should be focused on work, creative endeavors, socializing and travel, that you should give yourself a chance to heal, grow mentally and spiritually and to make health and fitness priorities. Come fall and throughout next year, transiting Jupiter will help open up new possibilities regarding love.

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