SUNDAY, MARCH 11, 2018
Dear Eugenia: I met a man a year ago and we both fell for one another. However, he was recently divorced, got scared and has kept me at a distance. He expressed feelings of love, but does not want to date me. I’ve asked him if he wants me to go away, and he wants to stay connected.
I truly feel this is my guy. Do you think there is hope here, or should I just move on? His birthday is Jan. 29, 1958, and mine is June 9, 1959, at 6:10 a.m. Thank you in advance for your input. — Gemini
Dear GEMINI: The comparison expresses a sign of sorrow that appears in your chart with regard to commitment. I can see the draw you have to him but feel that it isn’t likely to end the way you would like.
You are experiencing your second Saturn return, and it falls in an area of your chart that deals with relationships. This can throw you into a make-it-or-break-it situation when it comes to getting into a commitment with someone.
Aquarius isn’t the best sign for you. In most cases this sign will come into your life to teach you a lesson or it will lead to a dead end. Cut your losses and consider someone who is not as close in age. You should consider an Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra or Sagittarius who is at least three years older or younger.
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Dear Eugenia: My partner and I have been together for three years. We met while working on wildfires, and he was very charming.
He’s an Aries, born April 8, 1982. He has two sons. We became intimate quickly, and I didn’t intend for it to be more than a fling, but he said I was the sweetest and most trustworthy person he’s ever met and that he didn’t want it to end.
Three months later I moved eight hours from home for him. We have had many issues. Every time we fight, it is my fault. Recently I found texts to his ex inviting her to our home for breakfast with him and his youngest son while I was away. He says he was checking on her because she used to do a lot of drugs. However, he called her up another day as well telling her to call him and come “kick back with him.” He also messaged some random woman asking her to come have a drink with him. Both turned him down.
He calls me every day while I’m away, but I don’t know what to think. I feel as though it’s obvious he’s trying to cheat, but I also feel like I should get more proof. I think he thought I was going to be someone other than who I am and maybe feels cheated out of something.
He tells me he loves me and doesn’t want to lose me, and his son loves me. I’ve taken a lot of risks moving for him, and I’ve invested three years into this relationship. I love his family, but he makes me feel as if I’m in the wrong no matter what I do. For example, when I asked about the texts, he asked why I was snooping (it was unintentional). I needed to text his friend who borrowed my car, and that is when I saw his texts inviting out other women. That’s why and when I became suspicious.
I don’t understand him. He tells me how much he loves me and tells me how he’s been cheated on, and I thought that pain would make him not cheat. I need guidance here. My lack of confidence in my own insight is getting the best of me. I’m scared to make a decision. Please help to clarify his personality. I was born December 6, 1996, at 12:28 p.m. — Sagittarius
DEAR SAGITTARIUS: You should consider that meeting while fighting wildfires together was probably a rush in itself. I’m sure the adrenaline was flowing and you formed a very special bond while in a situation that took you both out of your normal routine and environment. The fact is, you are two very different people and although you have that common ground, that’s where your relationship appears to falter.
Your astrological comparison does not indicate the excitement or rush you felt initially. In hindsight, considering you went into the initial intimacy thinking of it as a fling, that is probably where you should have left it.
Now you have complicated matters by becoming attached to his family members. Unfortunately, the lack of excitement is a deterrent for your Aries, and whether or not he realizes it, he is in dire need of more.
While you may be the sweetest and most trustworthy person he has ever met, you cannot say the same about him. He is charming and he does love women, and above all he craves excitement, change and diversity in all aspects of his life. He may not have cheated on you physically, but the inclination is there, and the comparison you have with him isn’t likely to make this relationship easy to hold together.
You are in a high cycle regarding love this year, so don’t waste time on someone who isn’t right for you. You’d do better with a Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn or Pisces. You were born with an aspect in your chart that denotes emotional deception and disillusionment when it comes to men and commitment. Next time have an astrological comparison cast before you decide to move for someone.
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Dear Eugenia: I am a 41-year-old Cancer born on July 17 at 1:44 a.m. I feel so blessed in many ways. I have a fulfilling career, good health and wonderful friends.
I have, however, been unlucky in love. I have never married or even cohabitated with a partner. I’ve had many boyfriends, but it’s never gone to that next level of commitment and devotion.
I’ve made mistakes in the past and can’t help but think I’m paying a karmic price. Failed relationship after relationship I wonder what I’m doing wrong. Eugenia, will I ever find that relationship I yearn for? — Cancer
DEAR CANCER: You are fortunate in many ways, but when it comes to commitment and relationships your chart denotes confusion, uncertainty and disillusionment. This is partly to do with an aspect in your chart that causes you or the person you are dating to quit before the relationship has a chance to grow into something special.
What you should be doing is soul-searching and personal discovery. Your chart indicates you are very set in your ways and you aren’t likely to be that adaptable to someone else’s lifestyle. This prohibits the give-and-take and ability for an equal union to take place.
Relationships aren’t perfect and neither are people. There has to be more forgiveness, both of yourself and of others, if you want to get past dating and move on to cohabitation.
Your chart indicates you’ll be in a higher cycle regarding love beginning late fall and throughout next year. Use the first three quarters of this year to look inward and consider what you truly want in a partner as well as what you are willing to give back. Come fall, start looking for a Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn or Pisces.
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