Dear Eugenia



Dear Eugenia: I’m a Scorpio female, born on Nov. 1, 1985, at 12:01 a.m. I have been unlucky in love for quite some time. Every guy I have met since my breakup a couple of years ago has only wanted a physical relationship, nothing more. I was tired of the games and constantly getting my feelings hurt by numerous people.

I eventually got content with my single life and stopped looking for a relationship. A couple of months ago, I ran into someone I have known for many years now on Facebook. He is a Virgo, born on Sept. 13, 1973, at 3:36 p.m. We started talking and instantly hit it off. It was all so natural.

He’s also had past relationship problems and heartaches, and we both felt like we had finally found each other for a reason. Fate. We immediately made it official, and I packed up and flew from my hometown to his in order to be with him.

It was very exciting at first, but now I’ve been having doubts. Things have kind of gone downhill, and I’m not as happy as I was before. I miss home also. My question is, do you think I made the right choice leaving home? Did I find my soul mate? Are we meant to be together? — Scorpio

Dear Scorpio: You do match up astrologically with your Virgo man, but no relationship is perfect. There are signs of emotional and mental disillusionment that surface in both your charts with regard to personal contracts and joint finances, as well as anything pertaining to children in your chart and in his chart, his home and his geographical location.

Your ability to communicate looks good, so hash things out and work toward greater equality in your relationship. You made a long-distance move for him, and that should count for something. His chart indicates that when it comes to love and sharing, he can be stubborn or resistant to give up or share what belongs to him. You, on the other hand, aren’t always open about what you want, so how can he know how to please you?

The rush of love is powerful, and the first nine months of a live-in relationship are the best. But you have to know that once the initial stages of mesmerizing each other wear off, you both have to work hard to keep things running smoothly.

As a couple, take a step back and consider all the pros and cons of being together and have an honest discussion about what needs to happen to make this union work.

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Dear EugeniA: I feel like I am at a crossroads. The last few years have been very difficult for me: My son (born on Sept. 15, 2010) was diagnosed with autism, and I divorced his father (born on June 29, 1969) because he didn’t believe my son needed the therapy that I knew he needed. My divorce was finalized in 2013. My son now talks and interacts with me, and is doing very well after years of therapy and early intervention. I am very blessed.

I have dated infrequently since my divorce. An old boyfriend (born on June 10, 1965) has reached out to me, but I don’t know if I should try again with him. He was the love of my life, but he broke my heart years ago.

I have also had a marvelous friendship with a younger fellow (born on July 15, 1993) that was fun but got too serious on his part. I have taken three giant steps back because of his age and his immaturity. If he was 10 years older, I could see myself falling for him.

My date of birth is Oct. 21, 1969, at 8:57 a.m. I am happy in my life but would like to have a life partner. Is that in the cards for me? I have been married and divorced twice, and would love to find someone who loves my kids and me from the bottom of his heart. — Libra

Dear Libra: Your chart doesn’t suggest that you cannot find love and happiness, but it does indicate that losing interest is likely if the person you are with doesn’t live up to your expectations.

Your Gemini friend matches up quite nicely but falls in an area of your chart that leads to dead ends, so the likelihood of this relationship going the distance doesn’t look promising. He can offer some stability, but at what cost? Emotional disillusionment regarding children appears to be a problem that will eventually surface should you pursue this relationship.

Your younger Cancer certainly pushes your buttons physically and emotionally, but the relationship is riddled with emotional deception, and he too falls in an area of your chart that cripples the ability for any sort of longevity.

Your chart indicates that should you try to make it work with either of these men, it will likely run its course between the end of this year and 2021. I believe you would do better with an Aries, Leo, Sagittarius or Aquarius.

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Dear Eugenia: I am 36, born on July 6, 1981, at 9:49 a.m. I have never been in a serious relationship. I have never had a boyfriend. No one I date makes it beyond a third date. I have never been kissed, and I am still a virgin.

I do not mind the virginity, as I am saving myself for marriage. The problem is, I do not know if I will ever get married and have children. I have done all I am supposed to do: let friends and family know I am looking, joined groups to meet people, tried online dating — several times.

I pray for guidance, I examine my behaviors and work to improve myself. Still I remain single. I do not even get many dates. I do believe there is someone out there for me, but I do not know what more I can do. Please help. — Cancer

Dear Cancer: Your chart indicates that trying to find love is not that easy for you. Your natal Venus (love) is in an area of your chart that deals with secrets and hidden matters, making it difficult for you to meet someone you click with.

This doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Although your natal Venus is tucked away, it is well positioned to your natal Jupiter (opportunity) and Saturn (discipline). These two planets fall in an area of your chart that deals with how you earn your living and reconnecting with people from your past.

Getting involved in industry events or attending conferences that are work-related will help you find love. That, along with reconnecting with old friends from when you were in school, can lead to someone special.

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