Dear Eugenia

WEEK OF JULY 16, 2017

DEAR EUGENIA 

Dear Eugenia: I lost my husband, best friend, lover and companion on Jan. 9, 2010. Since 1985, we knew he would die early, due to polycystic kidneys, but not at 55.

Immediately after his death, my youngest son was deployed to Afghanistan and came back a broken, violent man. When he left, I became obsessed with the idea that I was going to lose both of them, and it broke me.

I have become a recluse, diagnosed with extreme anxiety disorder and major depression. My behavior now is the opposite of what I used to be. What hope do I have of recovering from this hell of a life?

I always found it interesting that my birthday, July 1, 1952, at 12 a.m. is exactly in the middle of the year and that my birth took place at midnight. — Cancer

Dear Cancer: It’s difficult to lose someone you love, but even more difficult to watch your child go through such a transformation after being subjected to brutal situations.

You didn’t mention when your son was born, but looking at your chart, there appears to be a turning point for him between mid-October and the end of November that in some way will bring peace to both of you.

Your chart indicates that your ability to open up and begin to live again will increase as the year comes to a close. The possibility of reaching out to someone from your past, or having someone reach out to you, will help you make the leap from recluse to participating in life again.

Please do not sit back. Even though you find it difficult to go out, connect using social media. It will help you get back to a place mentally, emotionally and physically that will give you hope for a brighter future.

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Dear Eugenia: My stepdaughter is acting out. She was born on Jan. 23, 2003. Her mom is a drug addict and has been out of jail since February. She lives in another state. We have sole custody with supervised visitation in our county.

Her mom hasn’t visited since we got custody (three-plus years ago). My stepdaughter feels her mom has changed, and she wants to go live with her. She is getting in trouble at school and at home. She is always angry.

My husband is having a hard time. He is hurt and feels betrayed. He is sad and angry. He was born on April 24, 1980, at 9 a.m., and I was born on Jan. 6, 1981, at 3:11 p.m. I don’t know what to do. — Capricorn

Dear Capricorn: You didn’t mention your stepdaughter’s time of birth or submit her mother’s birth data, which limits what I can offer you in terms of insight.

What I can tell you is that your stepdaughter has been going through her first half-life Saturn since late last year. This will continue until November. This transit will make her reconsider her current situation and can lead to change. Because the problems she is experiencing are affecting both school and home, I can understand her desire to get away. Her big disappointment will come from her inability to see her situation clearly regarding her biological parents.

Her astrological comparison to her father is pretty normal but does show anger when dealing with what she wants and any matter regarding her mother. This anger falls in an area of his chart that deals with communication. He needs to find common ground with her and an outlet that they can enjoy together. I cannot tell you where it falls in her chart without her time of birth.

Your comparison with her is adequate, but there doesn’t appear to be much of an attachment where love and affection are concerned. I do believe that offering to spend more time doing girl things might help, but she may reject that idea given her current state of mind.

She is extremely inquisitive and is also quite proficient at making up stories and twisting things around, not only when dealing with others but also when she looks within for answers. This is probably why she is considering the move. She was born with what I consider a spoon-fed chart, which means she gets what she wants and lands on her feet — like the cat with nine lives, until the last one runs out.

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dear Eugenia: I was wondering if you can help point me in the right direction. I was born on March 28, 1985, at 8:24 a.m. I have screwed up my credit horribly; my cash income is almost nonexistent. What can I do to get my income higher? I wish to get a better job, one that is suited to what I want to do in my career.

I am currently in school while trying to work and be a single mom of a child born on Dec. 4, 2008, at 11:59 a.m.

My current love interest is being chaotic at best. He was born on Sept. 8, 1987, at 8 p.m. However, my daughter’s father is always giving me issues and trying to be manipulative as well. What is the best way to deal with him and his family? He was born on Sept. 3, 1982, at 8:42 a.m.

I feel pulled in so many different directions and need to know which is the best way to get ahead in life. — Aries

Dear Aries: Although educational pursuits are never a bad thing, you may have picked the wrong course or direction given your timing and what shows up in an area of your chart that deals with learning. If you have been struggling this past year, you will find that it will be easier to find a suitable direction beginning this fall.

Your chart indicates that under normal circumstances, you are lucky when it comes to money. However, the past couple of years you have experienced transits that led to poor financial decisions. This transit will continue to plague you until late 2018. It’s important that you take a disciplined approach to your spending along with what and whom you invest in. Your child should be your first priority, and if that means getting along with your ex and his family, then do so.

With regard to direction, your chart indicates that you could actually do quite well working within institutional environments. This means government agencies, educational and financial institutions, hospitals/medical, judicial or research sectors. Your chart offers the flexibility to make money in many different ways, although it also states that you will bore easily and are drawn to more obscure professions. Keep in mind that if you want to stabilize and secure your financial future, you are best to stick to traditional means.

Regarding your lover and your ex, your concern should be who matches up best to your child. The bottom line is that your baby’s father wins. As for your lover — not so much if at all.

As for you matching up to one or the other, you do fit better with your lover, but not well enough for him to step in and take part in raising your child. Perhaps your choice in men is behind the trouble your ex and his family are sending your way.

Both your lover and your ex should have been just a social encounter, nothing more. You are currently in a high cycle regarding finding love, so keep looking.

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