Dear Eugenia

WEEK OF JULY 9, 2017


     Dear Eugenia: After years of low-paying jobs, I reinvented myself, returning to university and gaining a BA and then an MA to work in development (in non-profit organizations). I’m finally being paid a reasonable wage, in a small developing country with a job that is really challenging but also satisfying.

I have a cheap rental house that looks over the sea, and I regularly holiday in places that others dream of. In many respects, I’ve achieved and am fulfilling so many of my goals, including making some headway into saving to buy my own home. But for some reason I don’t feel happy at all.

Part of the problem is that working in this sector means meeting lots of people who generally are quite mobile. It takes me a while to form friendships, but here, they tend to leave before I can establish any sort of relationship. I’m quite lonely and would love to meet a man who shares my passion for this work, but who would also be happy with my dream of a cottage in the country somewhere.

Unfortunately, I really don’t meet many men, and those I do are married with children. Do you see any change in this situation, or should I prepare myself for being the single, strong woman I’ve been for so long? I was born on Sept. 23, 1975, at 5:30 a.m. — Gypsy

Dear GYpsy: You are in a high cycle until December of this year. However, it will take more effort on your part to meet someone who can fill your void. Your chart does not indicate that you can’t find love or that you will not have a serious relationship, but it does suggest that uncertainty prevails due to a lack of being able to commit or put your personal life before your professional one.

It’s not uncommon for Virgos to marry late in life or to be somewhat picky when it comes to personal partnerships. Although you have your natal Sun in Virgo, it is placed in an area of your chart that deals with how you view relationships and your partners. You think like a Libra, love like a Leo and show emotions like an Aries.

Step outside your comfort zone between now and the end of the year and sign up for activities, events or vacations geared toward singles. Don’t limit your choices by only considering someone from your background, culture, religion or profession. An open mind will encourage you to give both friendship and love a chance.

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Dear Eugenia: Everything was supposed to be looking up. All but my financial situation was working out, and then, Mike’s illness struck. He is my best friend, my love and my retirement buddy.

Our plans have been shot. His mother is now taking care of him. It’s crushing for her to take care of her only son this way. September will be three years since my strokes. 
I’ve reapplied for disability because I’m unable to keep a job that will support me, and basically I’m starting over: no home, no vehicle, no savings. I made a good living and raised three kids who are in college or better. I’m on Medicaid, and I sure can’t afford to lose my benefits now with doctor’s appointments weekly.

I’m at my parents’ home, taking care of my father since my mother is gone. I make his meals, drive his car to the store and doctors, do his laundry, do all the cleaning and make sure he takes his meds.

I can’t up and leave Dad now, but I have four sisters living within 5 miles. It’s hard on me emotionally and physically. 
I’m dying a slow death here. I have lost all hope for any kind of happiness. My sisters won’t step in to help me. And I can’t take good care of my dad on my own.

I’m desperate. I’m just so sad without my Mike and everyday life as I knew and loved. My youngest lives here also, and I can’t become a burden to her. I need advice. I was born on Aug. 12, 1962, at 2:29 a.m. — Leo

Dear Leo: Your chart denotes that where your siblings are concerned, they have had their own problems to deal with over the past few years, and this has made it difficult to help you more than they already do. The problems they are experiencing appear to be clearing up as the year progresses, and you should be able to get more assistance beginning late this year and throughout most of 2018.

Your daughter should be happy to step up and help, given your situation and the fact that she is living for free. Even if she is still a young adult, she should be contributing. You raised her, put a roof over her head and gave her life. No parent wants to lean on his or her children, but as we age or become ill that is what family does. They all pitch in. You have to stop being a martyr and start calling out for help for both your and your father’s sake.

Your chart indicates that even though you are a Leo by Sun sign, you think more like a Virgo and therefore aren’t all that willing to rely on others.

The past three years you have been riddled with limitations, but those are lifting as we approach the end of the year, and there are better days ahead beginning as early as late fall and continuing throughout next year.

That said, it’s still up to you to make things happen. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Reach out and ask for assistance, and you’ll be surprised by the communal effort that is offered.

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Dear Eugenia: I’m still living at home with my parents. I feel stuck in my life. I would like to know if I’m ever going to get married. Also, how much longer will I be staying at my parents’? I would love to know what career path to take. I am not in a good financial position at this time. I was born June 3, 1979, at 1:07 a.m. Any suggestions? — Gemini

Dear Gemini: Where education, relationships and your domestic situation are concerned, your natal chart has been under constant limitations and frustrations for the past five years. It’s been a time that muted your growth and left you in the position you currently are faced with.

Part of the problem is that you were born with some difficult aspects in your chart that cause emotional and mental self-deception and disillusionment. This makes you choose unrealistic expectations and aspirations. Until you set your goals and sights on something tangible, nothing will change.

With regard to school, you are coming into a high cycle beginning this fall that will stay with you for the next couple of years. If you apply yourself, you will do quite well.

My suggestion is an apprenticeship, obtaining a license in real estate or sports therapy, or a course that will prepare you to work in the hospitality or travel industry. You have a vivid imagination that should be channeled to avoid picking up bad habits that stifle your ability to advance.

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